I was recently interviewed for Pearl of Mind's professional spotlight, and the conversation went somewhere I care about. We talked about why I pivoted from a writing career to psychoanalysis, what actually changes in good analytic work, and why the path to feeling better runs straight through getting to know yourself. If you want a fuller sense of how I think and how I work before reaching out, this is a good place to start.

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A few highlights from our talk:

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"Psychoanalysis is a second career for me. While I really loved the work of writing and editing, I started to feel that I wouldn't be happy just in a small room with my computer for the rest of my life. I yearned for more connection."

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"The whole premise of relational psychoanalysis is two human beings sitting in a room, connecting and having a relationship."

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"Any meaningful change has to come from within. The first reaction to that is often disappointment, that it's going to be harder than you thought. But it's actually freeing. It makes you agentic. It puts you at the center of your experience. Things aren't just happening to you. You're making them happen."

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"There's knowing, and then there's knowing. You can understand something intellectually and still be eons away from knowing it in your self, where you learn it by living it. We get there only through deep, slow, insight-oriented work."

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The full interview covers couples work, how I stay present in the room, and the one fictional character I'd claim as my own. You can read the full interview here.